Researchers have discovered that children who get spanked
develop paranoia and become drunks. Wow! Where the hell do they come up with
that one? It never amazes me what the ‘experts’ come up with. How old were these researchers?
If that were true then every one in my generation should be
a paranoid drunk! I was spanked when I was a kid and I’m not paranoid, I drink
very little alcohol. I don’t smoke, either, even though my dad smoked a pipe.
(That one little tidbit is for those psychiatrists and psychologist and researchers who believe children always copy what their parents do). None of my
friends from my generation have problems with paranoia or alcohol. None of them
do drugs, either. Something that can’t be said for the new generations who grew
up not being spanked when they misbehaved. Their parents probably let them do
anything they wanted.
What a revelation! Now I finally know why there are so many
drunken and homeless people downtown. They were all spanked when they were
kids. My theory is they may not be in their position had they been spanked a
little and taught some discipline, but that’s only my theory. I’m not an expert
in these matters. I only use my brain to figure out things I observe.
I find that many kids these days have no respect for older
people, their teachers, policemen (policewomen), even their parents. Parents
are not buddies to little children. Their job is to teach them and discipline
them when they do something wrong. A little pat on the naked butt never hurts
their tender psyche.
Undisciplined children get a rude awakening when they grow
up and suddenly discover they can’t get away with doing anything they want.
There are certain laws they must obey. If they don’t follow rules they get
punished, either with a fine or even sent to prison if their crime warrants it.
Had they been punished for misbehaving when they were small they may have
learned respect for rules and the law. And some kids need a little more than just being talked to.
Why do people always have to blame somebody else for their
problems? Instead of saying: “I’m a drunk or a drug addict because I got
spanked when I was a kid,” they should say, “I’m a drunk because I can’t
control myself. I never learned any discipline; I was never taught how to
control my urges. My parents didn’t punish me when I did something wrong
because they didn’t want to hurt my psyche, but, yes, I take full
responsibility for my actions.”
Some people gamble, some take drugs, some drink excessively,
some are paranoid. Some people are just plain crazy. Some don’t know how to
handle money; they borrow too much, overextend their credit, charge their
credit accounts to the limit, buy on impulse. Some men beat their wives, their
children. Some get into fights, some steal, break into cars, rob people. Some
rape women and abuse children. When they get caught they blame it on something
or other, never take responsibility. Like Vince Li, who murdered a guy and cut
off his head, because he heard voices telling him to do that. It wasn’t his
fault. He is in a mental hospital in Selkirk now and doing fine…according to
his doctor, who is probably a psychiatrist. I don’t know if he still hears
voices. I wonder if he got spanked when he was a kid.
The problem is that people confuse spanking with beating.
No, you don’t beat your children. Neither does a husband beat his wife, (or the
other way around. It happens!) It’s a crime and should be punished severely.
Inflicting pain on others is a crime. Spanking is not inflicting pain. I got
spanked, on the buttocks with a belt. Spanked with a belt not beaten with a
stick. The belt was soft, so were my buttocks. Sure it hurt, but it didn’t
cause any permanent damage. My dad never hit me anywhere else, never in the
face, on the head, or on the chest or back. He never took out his anger on us
children. When we got spanked we deserved it. He was stern and taught us
respect for rules and the law. We had respect for our teachers, the police,
older people, and our parents. We did not call older people by their first
name, we called them Mr or Mrs. In some cases perhaps ‘Uncle’ or ‘Aunt’, but
never by their first name only.
I cannot agree with these researchers. Paranoia,
drunkenness, and other problems are not caused when children are spanked.
People develop those things as they grow older. Some people can’t cope with
life so they take refuge in drugs or alcohol. Some people are just born with
bad genes. Not their fault. My advice: deal with it. Don’t look for causes and
don’t blame others. Get help. Try to solve your problem. Learn to meditate.
Pray. Get busy. Maybe even get a job if you don’t have one. Educate yourself.
Take up a hobby. Get into sports. Do something but don’t mope and feel sorry
for yourself. And above all: Don’t blame your parents for your problems! You
and you alone are responsible.
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